5 Reasons You Should be Having MORE Sex
Ladies. I’m here to tell you that you should be having sex with your husband. A lot. I recently took an anonymous poll that really blew my mind. Apparently most of you are struggling to have sex even once a week. That’s insane. The poll ended up not being so anonymous once the results came in and I opened my big mouth in disbelief at the results. Ever since then, it’s been a constant stream of questions and remarks about how frisky my husband and I are.
So, I’m here to give you 5 GOOD reasons you should be getting down at least 3 times a week.
ONE :: It’s fun.
When was the last time you had a good romp in the sheets and didn’t leave feeling 100x better? I mean, really? Do you have a headache? Nothing cures that better than a mind blowing orgasm!
TWO :: Rejuvenate yourself after a long day.
Feeling blue, over touched and ready for your head to explode from a long day with the kids? Nothing cures that better than being worshiped by your husbands touch. LET HIM TOUCH YOU! He doesn’t care that you have stretch marks or a muffin top, he loves YOU and your muffin top, too. I know this one is hard. It’s hard to feel sexy post baby, but I encourage you to try. Do whatever you have to to feel pretty. It will pay off!
THREE :: Build your marriage.
These kids we are raising are heinous at times. They literally wipe boogers on you, break your best china and kick you when you’re down, all while racing around with delight. If you and your husband can’t stay connected, they’ll break you! If you have time to make it to the gym, the park or Starbucks, you have time to have sex. Somehow 10:30 seems to be our sweet spot. The kids are generally in a deep sleep by then, I’ve had time to peel the dried boogers off my arm and my head has generally stopped spinning by then. Give it a go!
FOUR :: Once you pop, you can’t stop!
But really, remember the magic of trying to conceive? That thrill of wanting him the second he walked in? You can have that back. Like anything, it may not happen right away, but what do you have to lose? Plus, I’m no doctor, but I’m pretty sure that orgasms are the key to peace on Earth. Taking time to care for yourself and your marriage can only make those stresses of normal life seem smaller.
FIVE :: It’s amazing to feel like you exist again.
All day you give every ounce of yourself to those precious angels, their school, your house, the dogs, the neighbor, your friends, your family … we are tired at night because we’re depleted. You’ve got nothing left and you’re relying on 5 broken hours of sleep to get you through the next day. Give yourself some time to focus on you and your husband. It’s just you. Let go of all the other stuff for just that moment. Go back into your mind and find what makes you feel good. Let yourself feel good!
Before you judge, I’m not a newlywed; I’m not a sex fiend. I’m a normal suburban mom. I’ve been with my husband for 16 years. We’ve had our share of bumps in the road, and life is not all easy for us. We have financial stress, no family to help with the kids, student loans, a crazy messy house, and all the same daily problems you have. The only real difference is that we both look forward to holding each other at night and reconnecting before the world tries to beat us down again. He’s my sanity (and also at times makes me insane), but one thing never changes and that’s the amazing chemistry and warm and fuzzy feelings that only he can give me.