Is there a perfect age gap between siblings?
Being the planner that I am, this is something that I’ve thought about quite often. After having our first baby, I always thought about “Well, if we get pregnant right now, our babies will be *this* far apart.” We knew we wanted to have our babies close together, and we tried for almost a year to get pregnant with our second. (Yes, that means technically we started trying before our baby was a year old.) Crazy? Maybe.
When our second was born, our first babe was 2 years and 3 months old. I thought that was pretty far apart, but boy was I wrong! It was almost like having two babies at the same time, yet who were at completely different stages. So kind of like twins, but not. Shout out to all of you twin moms out there, because y’all are freaking rockstars.
Before having kids, I never knew that sibling age gaps would be such a hot topic. After we had a baby, it wasn’t long before we started getting the question of when would we have our next. Before our baby was even a year old, people would ask when we were going to give him a sibling. Personally, this didn’t bother me at all until we had been trying for a while and I started to get a little sensitive about it, which could be a whole other blog post in itself.
So … the perfect age gap?
I really don’t think it exists, at least not across the board. I believe that it’s different for every family and that every age gap will have it’s pros and cons. For our family, I am very happy that we have two boys so close in age. They already play together so well and show similar interests, and I think growing up they’ll be interested in a lot of the same things at the same time. *HOPEFULLY* they’ll be best friends more than they fight, because I know being close in age also means that they’ll probably argue a lot.
In the beginning, having them so close together was a little more difficult than I imagined it to be. Luckily our 2 year old was fairly easy to potty train and was out of diapers shortly after his little brother was born, so we only had one kid in diapers. At 2 years old though, they still depend on you so much for everything, and there were many times I felt like I was somewhat failing my first born because I was always nursing or changing a diaper or just plain exhausted and couldn’t divide my attention evenly with them.
I know people who have both less of an age gap and more of an age gap between their children. Like I said, I believe every age gap between siblings has its pros and cons for sure. For us, if / when we have a third baby, I think I’d like a little more of an age gap. Possibly 3-4 years from our second babe? I am forever thankful for our first two being so close in age though. I can’t wait to watch them grow and be best friends for life!