Another day of scrolling through Facebook when I should probably be doing something else. It’s another day and the same sad, horrible story comes up in my feed. While it isn’t the exact same story, it is the same ending. A newborn baby abandoned in trashcan, garden, bathroom, dumpster the list goes on. It is a knife to the heart every time I see it.
These sweet babies are not feeling the love and warmth that they should as they enter the world. Instead, often times they are cold, alone and hoping to survive. In some cases, the babies are stumbled upon by passerby’s, and in other times the result, isn’t as good. This story could have such a different ending.
Maybe we don’t do a good job in talking about it. In Louisiana, we have a Safe Haven Law. What does this mean?
According to the Department of Children and Family Services, it means
“If you find yourself with no other alternative and are considering abandoning your baby, Louisiana’s Safe Haven Law provides a safe place for your child. If you are unable to care for your baby and the baby’s well-being is in danger, you can bring the newborn up to 60 days old to an emergency designated facility or Safe Haven site. By leaving the baby in the care of an employee at a Safe Haven facility, parents can give up custody of the newborn with no questions asked.”
This means that if you are a woman who has a baby, no matter the circumstance, you have a choice. You can gift your baby a better future and outcome than a trashcan or bathroom stall. I am not in any way judging. It is a crazy world, and people are in crazy situations. But I write this post as someone who as seen the beauty of adoption. I have seen moms yearning to have children, now with full hearts and arms because of the gift of adoption. As someone who struggled with fertility, I know there are mothers out there who are longing for a baby. Let another woman mother and give that gift.
As a community, perhaps, we need to say it is okay, to admit that motherhood is not your path for whatever the reason or the timing. But act. Hand the child over to the nearest hospital, EMS, fire or police station, pregnancy center or public health unit. No questions asked is the policy.